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To Whom It May Concern

May 16, 2017

Hey there,
The other day when you texted me about your boyfriend, I didn’t know what to say. So I replied, “Maybe step back and think about it. You deserve to be treated like a Queen.” You never replied back.

How many of these situations do we have to deal with before we put our feet, firmly down. Ladies, take it from me - the heartbreak queen…. you deserve the best. I’m so sick and tired of my girlfriends staying put when in reality all they want to do is run. Relationships are hard but if you’re not being treated right, you can leave. Never let the fear of the unknown frighten you away from that. Never let the fear of being “alone” keep you from that. Never let the fear of never finding mr.right keep you from that.

I told a friend once that I wanted her to have the “fairytale” story, but I wanted her to have the right one.

So many of my friends I have walked through breakups with always have similar issues in their relationships. Whether it’s because their family didn’t like the person they were dating, they were abused, or frustrated that their partner didn’t have the drive that they did.

Ladies and dudes. Never. Settle.

Never let the idea of “marriage” be your goal when in reality you just want to have a party and wear a pretty dress. If that’s all you’re wanting, throw a ball. trust me, we will all go!

Never let a man come between you and blood. This means never let a man or woman separate you from those that have loved you so deeply. Your family should be your numero uno! It’s not worth it. Someday you’ll regret it, and it might be too late.

Never let a man come between you and people you’ve known longer than you’ve been with him.
If your bestie is telling you this guy isn’t right or that he’s a carbon copy of a former boyfriend - chances are they are right. When we stand nose to nose with love we never see anything wrong with it. That’s why there are people in our lives to help us see things we might be blind to. But in the end it will have to be your decision.

Ladies and dudes. Never. Settle.

A man or woman should be welcoming to all friends and family because they know it’s a part of where you’ve been and where you’re going. The people he or she meets from your life are the most important people to him or her, so act like it.

A man or woman should make you feel butterflies but also call out your bullshit. They should make your whole person a better person. I don’t believe we find our other half, we find those that help refine and polish our whole selves. So they should do just that


Ladies and dudes. Never. Settle.

If you’re not ok with being alone, I’m worried about you. Being alone is by far the greatest test of knowing who you are and being a whole person. If you can’t be alone for a few days then you might want to start practicing that. We should be independent before dependent


I want all of you to live your best lives and I want all of you to find the RIGHT fairy tale. Some of these things might not be popular opinions, but it’s just some of the things I’ve learned on my 24 year long path.

With love,
A




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